BE ONE WITH THE CHAOS

My son and I have almost daily (bi, tri-daily) phone calls, emails and texts to keep up with the chaos of running a competitive performance group called Dark Sky Percussion.  Today after we discussed a second member quitting because they just "can't figure out how to  . . . blah, blah, blah."  I said to Seth, "They need to learn to be one with the chaos."  I thought as it came out - yup, that's what helps more than anything -

with lots of things.

BE ONE WITH THE CHAOS is my new mantra and I'm pretty sure I made it up.  I swear I didn't read it in my new self help book or hear it on Dr. Phil.  I think it makes it much easier to know what the next move should be; what is most important and what is not.  When I am one with the chaos, I am not in resistance to it.  I'm not surprised when something else comes along that I was not intending.  I don't invite chaos and I don't expect bad things to happen, I just know that life doesn't lay out exactly as I see it in my head, so why expect that?

If I can stay calm, I can deal with most chaos that comes along.  Directing a group of almost thirty 14-22 year olds who are spread across hundreds of miles and when they get together, well let's face it, they're drummers - so it is still chaos!  I really like the members who figure out how to not only cope with chaos but actually thrive and excell in the midst of it - those are my kinda peeps!

I could hear a bit of disdain in my son's voice today as he shared the list of excuses from the recent "quitter."  I gave her a new label: "One Who Cannot Deal With Chaos."  Now I actually feel bad for her: "Ah, poor girl, she can only thrive when everything is going just right."  Yikes - these are the people you wink at as you're saying "Good Luck!"